There’s something so appealing about someone saying, “come as you are.”
It beckons. The statement offers the acceptance of you, in your current state. It welcomes your humanity, your fragility, your less than perfect self.
It cries, “come in your jeans and jumper, don’t worry about dressing up. Come from wherever you’ve been, whatever you’ve been doing. Because you, all of you, your presence, is far more important than how prepared you are.” Arriving with your hair perfectly quiffed, your affairs sorted, and offering your best potluck dish is not for this moment.
“Come as you are” reignites wonder in the familiar. It values the guest, over the invitation. The moment together communing, more important than the many social expectations. I want more dinner parties and spontaneous invites like this. Because underneath lies grace and a call to real heartfelt authentic communication.
I think we all need more gracious relationships. The kind that see our humanity, our weakness, our vulnerability. The kind which love us, care for us, have our back even when we have misunderstood, and stuff up. And the hope is for reciprocity that we can extend the same grace.
Grace enables us to explore new territory, to grow and learn. Grace enables us to fail quickly and create new paths.
We all need gracious relationships
The young person starting a new job
Two cultures navigating their differences and commonalities
A tourist in a new city trying to find their way
The friend learning how to support a someone with chronic illness and saying the wrong thing
A wife in rehabilitation post accident relearning daily functions
The employee learning a new way of working
“Vulnerability is the birthplace of creativity, innovation and change” Brene brown
… and to be vulnerable we need to extend grace to ourselves and others.
Come, as you are
Image courtesy The Dowse, Come as You Are, exhibition September 2013.